I’M DR. SUE MANDEL, WELCOME.

You have a story inside, but is it actually yours?

Or does it seem like you’re living a script written by others?

We all want to want to make sense of our lives; to have meaning, to belong, find inner peace, and have secure, loving relationships. Maybe you have felt this way at times in the past, or perhaps you are still searching. The point is you want it now, and are looking for the right person to help you achieve your goals.

you may not realize it at the moment, but you have options.

It’s time for a re-write… time to let go of what feels familiar—even comfortable—but causes great suffering; and address what is keeping you from living the life that you want and deserve to have.

Ever find yourself thinking:

“I’m always afraid of doing or saying the wrong thing and being judged. I’m a perfectionist, which I’m proud of but envy others who don’t live in a pressure cooker. Why can’t I just let go and not worry so much?”

“I feel like a fake. I’m successful at work, have a good relationship, and lots of friends. But deep down I never feel good enough, and overthink absolutely everything. I’m afraid that others will find out that I’m not who they think I am.”

“I’ve always thought of myself as a good mom—I love my kids very much—but honestly, I hate going to a store with my 4 year old, and dread my 11 year old coming home from school. What’s going on??”

“I don’t look forward to going home. It used to be great—a glass of wine, a warm hug, sharing about our day, even had sex regularly. Somehow it’s become distant, talking about the kids, going over our schedules. It’s lonely, there’s no real connection.”

“I don’t get it – men are attracted to me and I date a lot. But a month or two into dating someone I like – and things are going well – I get anxious, clingy, and fearful that he’s going to leave me. Everybody seems to find love but me.”

Despite a lackluster or even painful life, you might find yourself keeping the status quo.

But is that the way you want to live?

We are the stories we tell ourselves, many of them etched in our minds for so long we aren’t even aware of them. Usually, they reflect messages from our earliest relationships, which we then incorporate as facts. Based on tens of thousands of moments every day, this is how our “Self-in-Relationship” template develops. Among many other things, it is a belief system about yourself, about others, and about how relationships work.

Do you find yourself:

Being unable to prioritize your needs as well as the needs of others
Being susceptible to feelings of guilt, shame, resentment, and responsibility for others’ happiness
Rarely feeling pretty enough, sexy enough, thin enough, smart enough, funny enough, or just enough


Day in and day out— unbeknownst to us—these self-negating beliefs are the drivers of our most important choices and decisions.

But here’s the rub: The more disappointed we are, the more we think it’s our fault.

You have lived your story for a long time, wishing it were different… wishing you knew how to make if different.

Well, guess what? Feeling as stuck as you do may seem like being in prison, but you’re the only one with the key. You are in control and free to explore who you are, what you believe, and how you want to live your life. In the context of a trustworthy and supportive therapy relationship, the parts of you that have been fiercely protected all these years, that are true and real and courageous, can start to be known.

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes,
but in having new eyes.”

Marcel Proust

Now what?

Whether you choose therapy or life coaching the goal is the same: living the life that best suits you, and freeing up parts of yourself just waiting to be discovered and giving them a voice.

But who to go to and how to start? Finding someone who is the right fit for you comes before anything else. Does this person listen, try to understand, and seem to “get you”?


I offer an initial video or telephone 20 minute consultation at NO CHARGE to you. We can get to know each other a bit, answer your questions, and see if we click. We both want the best for you and need to feel that we’d be a good team.

Based in neuroscientific research, I utilize my Psychodynamic background, Attachment Theory, EMDR for trauma processing and healing, Mindfulness skill-building, Cognitive Behavior tools, Somatic awareness, and Self-Compassion work. Along with your specific areas of focus, my overriding mission is for you to get out of your own way and pursue a life of intention, self-awareness, and vitality.

YOU MAKE THOUSANDS OF CHOICES EVERDAY. CRAZY, HUH?
RIGHT NOW, IN THIS VERY MOMENT, CHOOSE YOU.

WATCH MY VIDEO AND SEE HOW I CAN HELP!